One thing that I know for sure is that I am a caregiver!  The act of taking care of people has been a passion for as long as I can remember.  That passion has been nurtured, supported and trained until it has permeated my body and soul.  With that having been said, there is a selfish side also.  That dark place remained hidden from me until my husband Manuel came into my life.  The first thing that I noticed was that he was generous with his time.  He was there for me, our children, his sisters and parents, and always for his countless friends.  His heart and wallet were open for anyone in need.  There were homeless people who could depend that he would be there for them, waitresses that beamed with a smile at the sight of him, knowing that he was an especially great tipper to them, and for any charity that he felt drawn to, he would never forget to give.  It was not unusual for him to search out a certain nun at the airport each time we were there, to hand her something that he had been saving for just that day.

Sometimes we would have a blood drive at the hospital and he would be first in line.  I was happy taking the blood, handing out orange juice, and taking vital signs.  I would not be in that line.  Although Manuel would explain why he felt strongly about giving blood each time he could, I never felt that way.  That is, until my son Alex needed a transfusion and the hospital didn’t have his type.  My blood type is O+, the ‘universal donor’, so I immediately volunteered to give my blood.  Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way.  There is a screening process involved that would take some time.  After that it was clear that the blood that is so unselfishly donated truly does save lives.  Some wonderful, kind person had given his blood so that my son would live.  ❤️

Some lessons have to be learned the hard way.

Please watch this video that I found on a blog that I follow called:  Chasing away salt water by Carly-Jay.


18 thoughts on “LIFE AFTER DEATH

  1. Thank you Patty. Your post is lovely. I want to say that as you certainly know Patty we cannot all be good the same way. You are a care-giver in the way that you are. You do your work with dedication. That is exploiting the talent that God has given you to the best of your ability. Another will have the gift of donating blood which may not be your gift. Just as that other person may not do what you are doing. Also God gives us talents to use for His glory; but He also wants our work to bring us rewards. There is no total selflessness. If we do not derive joy from what we do we would not do it. Hence, if we do not ask for pay the joy we get is a kind of pay. My purpose is to inspire people to become the best people they can be and achieve their fondest dreams. It is not completely selfless as I derive a lot of joy from it and it gives me a sense of fulfillment and self worth. I also hope that eventually people will donate or buy my books and other products and I will be able to do more and leave a legacy. This is the selfish side but I believe in the eyes of God it is not bad. Having a selfish side to the selfless work we do, I think is normal, Patty. What do you think? ILU.

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    • I think you are a very kind man who has been such an inspiration and source of encouragement for me. I agree that the joyful feeling that fills our hearts when we love what we are doing is pay enough and that God has different things for different people. I wanted to tell you first that I have applied for my nonprofit organization for children with chronic diseases and their families. If you did not encourage me through this time, I never would have done it. Thank you so much! ❤️

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      • I am happy to hear this Patty. Thank God you have taken this bold step. I encourage you to know that God is calling you to serve Him through this organization. He has a mighty plan for you. Put Him at the center and He will lead you through and you will experience real joy in the work you will be doing. I’ll pray for you and will be there at all times to support in any way I can.

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  2. Patty, thank you for opening yourself up like a can and exposing yourself warts and all. Even though I was receiving blood transfusions for 5 years, not one of my family members have donated blood. I don’t even think they’ve donated towards my illness either. Not an impressive track record. That said, my parents have helped us a lot directly and view that as their “charity”. My brother is also living at home with fibromyalgia and they suppport him. They are now retired. My mum has been coming up to help me with the kids once a week now for 11-12 years and we live an hour away, which for her is an effort. She loves the kids and spending time with them, even though they can be “challenging”.
    I guess people give in all sorts of ways.
    xx Rowena

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